Filipinos are great people in general. Our passions in life are determined by our strong faith and love. Kaya hanggang we honor saying “opo” and “mahal kita [kita is not YOU – it means “You and I]”; and do respectful gestures such as “pagmamano” and “pagpapaalam” [getting permission], Filipino spirit is not dying. However we should also recognize the exaggerated negative traits. Here are the five common attitude problems that affect our money management:
- Pa- Victim Mentality – What and who have victim mentality? Victim Mentality is the tendency to be “paawa” [pity] of people so you will help them even though they can do something naman to make their lives better. They most likely blame others or make excuses because they believe that they’re the most unfortunate hampaslupang person in the world. Tipong:
- Kapag galing kang ibang bansa, dapat magpa-piyesta ka pagdating mo kasi nga sila dito-dito lang nakaabot
- Kapag ‘di ka nagbigay, hindi siya magsu-survive
- Ganyan ka kasi ganito lang s’ya
Always remember that you can give assistance, but not always. Iba ang “nagpapatulong” sa “umaasa na” (dependent ala parasites that exploit) You’re not helping them, you are actually tolerating their attitude problems. Ang tawag dito ay codepency.
If you’re guilty of having a victim mentality, try to slowly change your mindset. Think that each person has own journey and crosses to bear para maging burden ka pa. You can’t fully maximize your potentials or realize your self-worth if you keep on relying/blaming others. At the end of the day, no one can help you to thrive except yourself kaya [utang na loob] ‘wag tayong pabigat ateh at koyah!
- If you’re kuripot, then you’re madamot – If you think you’re Kuripot [frugal], apir, we’re both “Mutant and Proud.” Yun lang while luckily there are generous individuals, most Filipinos believe that frugality is
- Oh no, you’re getting poor na,
- Madamot [ more than selfish and below ganid],
- Kill Joy?
Frugality means you are good in saving and spending your money. You know when you’re going to spend because you’re SURE about your happiness. Pa-party, ‘di naman marunong sumayaw. Manonood ng concert, ‘di naman naiintindihan iyong mga kanta. May new phone nga ‘di naman alam gamitin :p
- The Great Borrower – ‘Di naman siguro marami ang populasyon nila, but for me the great borrowers are those who think getting loans is natural and ALWAYS the FIRST THING to do. Then wala lang. Tipong hihiram, magbabayad, tapos maghihiram ulit? The mysterious part is they afford to buy cars, smart phones, fancy clothes, and others [according to their Facebook updates]; but they can’t keep something for their monthly bills. Resulta? debt-ridden.
- Pasikat/ Pabida – In English, boastful in a starring role …charrot! Dati “the Pasikats” are common in fiestas. There they offer banquets and join activities where they can show their
talentsmoney. Personally, I like fiestas. Iyon lang there are individuals who show extravagant in their handaan even though they have tight budgets. Puwede naman ambagan sa fiesta di ba?
An example of The Modern Pasikat ay iyong active sa social media updates and buying gizmos for the sake of saying “they can afford.” I believe smart reputable and richest people don’t boast [or often] about their escapades, branded clothes, latest gadgets, and expensive collections. Instead, they’re busy focusing on their productivity, marketing their brands, advocating their charity/ humanitarian projects, and giving motivational talks. Read about Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, Ariana Huffington, and Oprah Winfrey. They not make yabang, they make money.
5. Humility for the wrong reasons [Pagpapakumbaba … kuno] – Absolutely, being humble is good, BUT it should come with wisdom and dignity. Lalim noh? Explain ko… the bad type of humility is when we think we’re not good enough compare to others. We allow people to abuse our kindness and disrespect our opinions. Samantala, when we receive appreciations ay itinatanggi naman natin or we’re in doubt of our worth. I believe the way we handle our career, business, money, and relationships also depend on our right or wrong mindset about humility.
“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”
― C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity